BDSM Etiquette 101: Grace, Respect, and Awareness in the Kink Community

A Personal Note from Knight_of_Xanadu & TheGirl_Star:

In our journey through the kink community, we've met so many incredible people, curious newcomers, eager learners, and even seasoned players, who simply never had the opportunity to learn the unspoken rules that help make BDSM spaces respectful, inclusive, and safe. And the truth is, without guidance, it's easy to make innocent missteps that can lead to discomfort or even harm.

That's why we created this class.

BDSM Etiquette: Grace, Respect, and Awareness in the Kink Community was designed for everyone. Whether you're brand new, finding your footing, or refining your role in the lifestyle. Our goal is to make sure every participant, every scene, and every space we share can be one of safety, trust, and consent.

We believe etiquette isn't about elitism—it's about shared responsibility. It's about showing up with intention, treating others with care, and creating an environment where everyone can explore and express themselves fully.

Thank you for being here and for investing in the kind of community we all deserve.

With respect and gratitude,
Knight_of_Xanadu & TheGirl_Star
Founders of XanaduKink

Class Description

Whether you're stepping into your first munch or navigating a high-energy dungeon party, understanding community etiquette is essential to creating safe, respectful, and empowering spaces. This engaging, interactive class introduces the core principles of BDSM etiquette—covering both public and private play settings—with a focus on grace, mutual respect, and situational awareness.

Participants will learn how to navigate common social and scene-related challenges with confidence and clarity. We'll explore best practices for dungeon and social events, how to engage online without overstepping, and how to uphold personal boundaries while honoring others'. Using real-world scenarios, role-plays, and open discussion, this class goes beyond rules—it helps cultivate the mindset of an aware and considerate community member.

Topics Covered:

• Core etiquette principles: Consent, communication, and conduct
• Social events: Munches, mixers, and inclusivity
• Dungeon etiquette: Scenes, play space protocols, and DM authority
• Online behavior: Messaging, boundaries, and digital respect
• Conflict management and bystander intervention
• Situational responses: Role-play and debrief (e.g., uninvited kneeling, scene interruptions, consent breaches)

By the end of this class, participants will walk away with a deeper understanding of how to move through the kink community with poise, respect, and authenticity—and how their actions can uplift and protect the space for everyone.